To My Daughter

To the love of my life

I know I am probably considered too young to write this one as I am just 22 and well honestly I agree to that as well. But then this is the youngest I will ever be and this is the least age difference we are ever going to have. So I thought I should give it a shot. May be I will write one more to you when I will be 30 and more sane, sober, responsible and all of those things... (read boring) but for now I want you to know what I was like when I was twenty two in my so called "leather jacket and Avril phase". What mistakes I made that I don't want you to. How I freaked about almost everything. And how I knew, you are going to be the anchor of my life. :)

So my intention was primarily to write a beautiful poem for you, but sorry sweetheart its not possible for me to sum up all of it... merely in few lines. Those two stanzas that I carried along everywhere for a couple of months are at a dead end now. So I am finally giving up. :(

I honestly don't know from where do I need to begin from, So I will just start by saying what I always crave to hear. "No matter what horrible things you do, how much you push me away or how many times you fail.... you will always find a way back to my heart. I will always stay and I promise we will get through it. " :)

Lets go through things one by one.

     1. Those who want to stay will stay. Don't ask for it.

     2. Not everyone you loose is a loss.

     3. Its compulsory to have a 4:00 AM friend, who won't ask you to stop crying or will try to know the reason but will let you silently sob all you want.

     4. Moisturize your hair, and apply sunscreen like your second job. If you have my DNA, you are going to get troubled by both.  

    5. Travel all you want, just come back home safe.

    6. Find a goal, sooner the better. 

    7. Be a window cleaner if you want, but be the best at it.

    8. Be a lady who falls in love with the struggle of his man not his money. Be the one he needs not wants.

    9. Love is over rated, and butterflies are misleading. At least that's how I feel right now ... (It comes and goes in phases 4 now) but still when I will be 52 and you will be 22, I want you to experience all of it and fight with me and tell me otherwise. :) Because if I know something and I am certain about, It is that it's totally worth it. (Y)

  10. Being simple is not simple anymore.

 11. World is unfair, make sure you aren't to yourself.

 12. There is no universal benchmark for whats rights and whats wrong. Make your own rules and stick to them. Its okay if people don't always get you or get along. May be you are a 22nd century girl living in 21st, because there was also a time when drinking tea was considered to be evil. :P

 13. Keep the house clean. Sorry I am Monica Geller (watch friends).

 14. Your mom has this secret envelope and a book hidden somewhere in her shelf, Please throw it away if she hasn't so far. ( I know, I should have done that a long time back but its difficult and you will know. )

 15. Everyone will tell you, its easy to give up and hard to keep going on. But for once you will know giving up can be the most difficult thing to do. 

 16. Watch "North and South", "Painted Veil", "Mona Lisa smile", "One day", "Flipped", "Brave", "Alice in the wonderland".... observe the tinniest bit of details and may be you will know what do I intend to say.

 17. Beat the shit out of the guy who thinks like you are a public property and its okay to grope you because you are alone. Do it, don't hesitate. You are that strong. 

 18. There is no right person out there, just the right time.

 19. Read Books, whatever that interests you. Crime, Love stories, Romance, Sex...whatever.... but just read.

 20. Writing and shopping. Both are great therapy. 

 21. Instead of having 1000 good friends make 2 close friends.

 22. Don't let numbers define you. Be it your size or your GPA.

 23. Don't compare your inside with others outside. 

 24. Indulge in a sport.

 25. Make a point to call your old friends once in a while. Try and stay in touch.

 26. Make waving friends. Not just with the ones you find in college or school but the kid on the street and that lady passing by.

 27. Smile more often. Happy girl look the prettiest of all. :)

 28. Pick a signature perfume for yourself. Its classy. (I haven't done it myself so far :( )

 29. Define your own "Classy".

 30. We see things we want to. We hear things we want to. Don't let yourself be blind to this primary fact.

 31. Go and watch the night sky from the out skirts of the city. It's the most beautiful sight of the world.

 32. If you don't mean it, don't say it.

 33. Just because your friends have a boy friend should not be the reason you need one.

 34. Give personalized gifts, write letters to your friends. Its never too outdated to do that.

 35. You can tell me any and every thing. I promise I would always be listening.

 36. Learn to appreciate small acts of kindness. Observe the details.

 37. Say Thank you and Hug people more often.

 38. Maintain your journal. You will be surprised, how much you have changed and matured with time, even if its not really visible.

 39. Don't over think, over analyze and worry. You will miss the moment. Sometimes its good to be in the fools paradise.

 40. Learn to love the fool within you. Who is not always right, acts crazy and stupid, has bad hair days,and have insecurities.  

 41. I won't ask you to go to the temple everyday ... frankly i haven't done it either. But just go once in a while to tell them how you feel about everything that is going on in your life.

 42.. Kiss that guy. Your mom is slow but don't you be.

 43. Don't take sex lightly. I mean it.

 44.Cut down on bahar ka khanna as much as you can. Processed food is not healthy no matter what the nutrition value says.

 45. Learn to like fruits, veggies and milk products.

 46. Don't be in a hurry to wear make up. You don't need it anyways.

 47. Personal hygiene has no multiple choice. It's a must.

 48. Don't be embarrassed for hoping for true love.

 49. Disconnect once in a while.

 50. No, you are not allowed to smoke and never will be.

 51. Drink but in a safe company and let me know. "OCCASIONALLY".

 52. Random act of kindness and anonymous charity is sexiest of all. And you deserve a guy who can see and believe that.

 53. I have a magical power and I can see through your lies. But I will still wait because I know you will come and tell me the truth anyways. :)

 54. Some people do not deserve your reaction. For them your silent treatment should be all.

 55. Fashion magazines and cover models are not real. Do I really even need to say that.

 56. Tattoos are permanent. Think hard before you get one.

 57. You are never too old to watch Disney.

 58. PMS are no excuse.

 59. Learn the art of saving money from the beginning itself. Its very important.

 60. Speak your mind. ALWAYS.

 61. Family is very important.

 62. Never be afraid to get a little dirty. Flirt shamelessly. But only till its sensual and not slutty.

 63. Learn the difference between sexy and vulgar.

 64. Watch super hero movies. They are amazing.

 67. I know you are strong and independent but still marry a gentleman who has the chivalry to order food for you, who won't mind holding gate for you.

 68. You know butterflies die, never knowing what beautiful wings they own. Don't be one such butterfly.

 69. Many times you going to regret things you have said. But more than that you are going to regret what you did not say.

 70. There are really no short cuts to success.

 71. Psithurism. Find out what it is.

 72. Pick your favourite word and find out why ? Mine was "peregrination"

 73. Rules are meant to be broken, unless they are mine. :P

 74. Don't regret a single thing.

 75. Its going to be okay. No matter what. It always has, and it always will. Whatever is going to happen will be for the better. I have witnessed it and you will witness it too. :)

Okay so I am tired. Lets keep it till here for today.
Lots and lots of love.
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